No regard for authority: Check. Constant tantrums: check. Out of control behavior: check.
If this checklist sounds eerily familiar to behaviors found in your child, you probably have a defiant child on your hands. Dealing with a defiant child can be taxing on even the most patient parent. How on earth can defiant behavior be managed and overcome? That’s a tough question to answer. However, there are a few things parents can do to manage the behavior of a defiant child.
Working through defiant behavior
Whether your teen acts out at home or at school, it can seriously ruin their chances of success. Finding solutions to the behaviors of a defiant child is crucial for the well being of your teen as well as your own sanity!
Here are a few ways you can help your teen work through their defiant behavior:
- One-on-one time: Take every opportunity you can to spend time with your child alone. No matter how much she says she hates you or she can’t stand you, she needs to know that you love her very much and that nothing she says will stop you from loving her. This time to bond will allow her to open up about what’s REALLY causing her defiant behavior. This time alone can be while you’re driving her somewhere, after dinner one night, or a designated outing a few times a week.
- Praise her: Give her praise when she deserves it, but try to praise her at least once a day. It can be about something super small, but she’ll take it into account. Compliments can brighten anyone’s day, even if they are a defiant child who would normally curse at you in response.
- Use humor: When you’re in the middle of a heated argument with your defiant child, don’t be afraid to do something funny to break up the tension. She’ll stop screaming at you for a moment and maybe even laugh. Laughter can instantly improve her mood (and your mood). This moment of peace can lead to apologies and compromise.
- Take care of yourself: No parent should be on constant alert 24/7 due to their defiant child’s outbursts. Take time every week to do something nice for yourself. Read a book, watch one of your favorite TV shows, or meditate. Do anything that relaxes you. Destressing is important for your mental health, as well as the mental health of your child.
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